I was listening to a very interesting lecture yesterday about perfection and the speaker explained that perfection is a relative concept. The perfect cow is one which produces the most milk. The best horse is the fastest one. Now if we had a fast cow, sure, it might be a cool thing, but would it be the best cow? No, because it's not serving its purpose to the best of its ability. Therefore perfection is relative depending on the purpose that something or someone serves. As humans, we are always striving for perfection. Everything we do, we do because we want to reach the top, the state of perfection. The irony is that most of us on this planet don't even know what our purpose is, so how exactly do we expect to reach perfection?
When Satan rebelled against God's instructions to bow to Adam (a.s), he had forgotten or become confused about his purpose. He said that he was made of fire while Adam (a.s) was made of clay. The purpose of fire in relation to clay is to assist the clay, fire it so that it becomes hard. Satan would have been closer to perfection if he had bowed down to Adam (a.s) because he would be serving his purpose in doing so.
Anyway, enough examples. Let's just get to the meat of it now- if you agree with the above then you'd also agree that the perfect woman is one who acts like a woman, one who fulfils the purpose of a woman, and similarly the perfect man is one who acts like and fulfils the purpose of a man. It's impossible to compare the two genders because they were created for different purposes- it's like comparing a doctor to an architect.
The question is, what exactly is the purpose of a woman? Society has distorted the answer to this question so much that nowadays even I find myself confused. Suddenly the purpose of a woman has become to take on a man's role and compete to fulfil it better. Go out and work, reach the top of every field, earn a huge salary, and all the other womanly stuff that men couldn't do even if they wanted to.
People think that women have been "liberated" over the last few centuries. Have they? I think they've been burdened. They've just had men's roles forced onto them and been told, "Oh, now you're allowed to do the stuff that men do." Women are now "allowed" to go out and provide for the family, they're "allowed" to go out and serve complete strangers instead of being "trapped" at home and serve those about whom they actually care. Nowadays if a woman decides that she wants to stay at home and look after her family, she's "backward". Liberation? My foot.
Now I'm not saying that women should stop everything and get back into their houses to serve their families. I just have a problem with the deception that's been created. I find it hilariously tragic how some feminists are fooling themselves. (And when I say feminists, I don't mean the Women's Rights movement people, but the women who reject their feminine nature). Feminism is an insult to women. It creates a competition between men and women, except men aren't really competing, are they? It's the women who have to reach the men's standards. "Women should be able to do everything that a man does". Why? Why even draw that comparison? Why should women serve the purpose of men? There couldn't be a more appropriate situation to facepalm myself about.
Scary how society can distort things so convincingly. God help us all.
Good piece. People often forget that equality is not always equity.
ReplyDeleteI like your point about Feminists of that sort. I've met a few people who believe that women are better skilled etc than men therefore should have total superiority like men did before. It seems that this solution would only cause another problem.
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